Wags of Sports Stars
Saturday
Schedule 8 - 9:30
8 - 8:05 Intro prayer
8:05 - 8:15 Pre-Gospel moment
8:15 - 8:30 My story
8:30 - 9:05 Discussion
9:05 - 9:30 Gospel moment/End Prayer
My testimony -
Caveat - this my story, not anyone else, this is a very
sensitive subject and I surely don't want to make anyone
unnecessarily uncomfortable. But this subject is near and
dear to my heart that it needs to be brought up.
- I was introduced to p at a young age around 12-13 years old
where a group of my friends would visit a antique store but had
German magazines that had nudity.
- That was a building block for my descent into darkness.
I remember in high school going driving to the next town and buying magazines
(I wouldn't buy them in town, so that I would not be seen)
- Fast forward to 2003
I was married, 3 kids, very involved in church (Children's ministry, Men's ministry, Worship
team)
- aside (who are you? I was in this filth yet teach kids about Jesus)
- My private fantasy life was so overwhelming that for years of my marriage and my wife was very oppressed and I made her life miserable.
Most Important - Depression, Hopelessness, Filth, Low self-worth. Self-loathing.
- So What Happened - My Wife Left me and moved out - about two months)
- I was so devastated. The most painful thing I have seen in my life was my wife's closet
where every thing was gone. Not even a single piece of dirt was there. She hated me so
much that she wouldn't even leave me a piece of dirt. It like she was never there!
- In short, I didn't want our marriage to end.God miraculously saved our marriage - but that's subject for another study.
- God had sent me a message. Stop it!!! Some people need a little coercion, a little threat,
I needed a 2X4 to the side of my head. Such a wake-up call. And through time a
lot of healing has taken place.
- 3 Practical
Praying, fasting, renewing my mind where I had abandoned God. Now I was coming back.
It sound cliche but it was so important
Counseling - Weekly accountability
Biggest take-away from this -
32 years of bondage, prison of my own making, pleading with God for relief.
A victimless sin
A sobering look at
Sexual Impurity and the Christian man.
Let's discuss:
Eye candy = I candy.
Internet: Friend or Foe
The Cost Impurity.
Do I love my wife... really?
Email to men
Hi men,
Just a heads-up on next Saturday's Men's breakfast (March 12th).
We're going to take critical look at sexual impurity and its effects on men in general and Christian men in particular. As always there will be a gospel moment, provided by Zac Nash followed by a short reflection on my struggles and then a sobering discussion on the subject. Coffee and goodies will be provided.
Also, please keep Zac in your prayers. He is going in for surgery, Tuesday, March 8th Doctors are going to insert a catheter to keep his nerves from misfiring. He should be well enough to join us on Saturday.
Welcome
Pray
Zac - prequel - gospel moment
Caveat
Motivation (no one should have to go
through what I
had been through
Beginning - high school - college
13 (1971) – 45 (2003)
32 years of bondage
Marriage
Active in
Church
Fantasy Life – Business Trip
Faced Depression, Hopelessness, Filth, Low self-worth,
self-loathing (hating
myself).
The phone call
White Funeral (Oswald Chambers
Yes, it was then,
at my 'White Funeral' that I made an agreement with God)
Liberation
My marriage has been restored. Donna up, me down.
Do I Stumble?
Let's discuss:
Eye candy = I candy.
Internet: Friend or Foe
The Cost Impurity.
Do I love my wife... really?
Zac - sequel - gospel moment
Questions:
Eye candy = I candy
Rosaria Butterfield quoted Pastor Sam Allsberry "We are all sexual sinners".
How much of our sexual sin stems from self-centeredness?
My idol was porn - not only to satisfy our lusts (because that is fleeting)
but to make heroes in our on fantasy world.
Do I love my wife, really?
Sure, sure, I love my wife. I loved here as a maid, cook, sometimes talking partner,
driver, quiet, cause no waves and not to embarrass me.
Do I love her as my partner, my lover and my friend?
The cost of impurity
I lost years of having a true and deep relationship with God, not just a superficial, needy one.
I lost years of having a deep relationship with my wife, things I put her through that I can
never recover.
I lost brain cells thinking about filth, where I could have used for better things.
Internet Friend or Foe?
As I said earlier, one has a problem with the Internet, get filtering software.
How has the internet made it easy for men to wander?
Don't think your surfing is hidden It will be hidden 90-95% of the time, but
you will still leave a footprint somewhere.
